Loving a Guarded Friend
When a friend is being a tough nut to crack, we can learn to invite her to a place of vulnerability from how Jesus spoke to the woman at the well.
Why You Should Go First
We all wish someone else would lead the way in vulnerability so we know they’re safe, but that’s not always reality. Sticky People know that going first by vulnerably sharing is worth the inherent risk.
A Jump-Out-of-the-Boat Kind of Heart
I love asking people about their favorite things. Something like, if you could only have one more dessert before you die, what would you pick? Or, what are three things that would make for an “ideal day”? Or, if you’re going for more of a Sunday School vibe, who is your favorite person in the…
What is a Sticky Person?
When you think of kids + foods that are sticky, maybe you think of popsicles or fruit. But for me, I think of the first time I served my baby cous cous when he was first learning to eat solid foods. If you’ve been there, you know…If there is one food that is the glitter…
Learning to Listen to the Holy Spirit
I’ve been asking people more often what the Holy Spirit sounds like to them, because although we as Christians often say, “Listen to the Holy Spirit,” it seems a lot of us are pretty unfamiliar with how to actually do this. Many times during this series about tough communication moments in friendship, we have referenced…
When She’s Making Bad Choices
“If I ever try to do something that stupid, you better stop me!” I teased my friend with this line when she asked me to pray about the latest shenanigans of a friend of hers. Truth is we joke about that, but were my friend to actually call me on making a poor choice, I’m…
When She’s Caught Up in Sin
I once saw it written: “If you flip people’s tables, you better be prepared to die for them.” This line has stuck with me for many years, serving as a heart check when my motive is straying from love to judgment. When Jesus flipped the tables of the money changers in the Temple, he saw…
When I’m Approaching Friendship Burnout…
Thanks to my husband’s work, we had the opportunity to visit Hawaii for the first time ever last week. I grew up in the Midwest, so I haven’t spent a lot of time near the ocean during my life, but whenever I am by it, I’m always struck by its changeability. One moment, it seems…
When I’m Wrong
Do you ever wonder why your brain is so unfair to your heart? For example, if I were to tell my husband, hey, I appreciate you, but you’re loading the dishwasher incorrectly. I would expect him to understand that I was making a corrective suggestion about how to load the dishwasher most efficiently. Period. I’m…
When I Need to Shut my Mouth
Derailing and Avoiding Gossip in our Friendships People often say, what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her. The trouble with this phrase is that sooner or later, people almost always find out. And then it does hurt. As a follower of Christ, avoiding gossip seems like it needs to be a priority, but this doesn’t…